Ever since I was a kid I’ve hated cheaters. I always thought that cheaters were scum and even though I didn’t understand a lot of adult subjects, I perfectly understood that cheating was a betray of trust.
OK fine maybe I didn’t think cheaters were *scum* at age 6 but they definitely made me angry. But somehow, when I was younger, I was able to rationalize the mistakes people made to look at the bright side or to understand why they may have done it.
But as I’ve gotten older, I have learned that cheating isn’t just black and white. People cheat for varying reasons, some emotional, others pure passionate urges, loneliness, and a host of other reasons. Yet, I have managed to still get upset at the idea of cheaters. I may not get outwardly angry, but I still have a very strict view on cheaters. Since the act of cheating means you are disrespecting your relationship and the person you are cheating on, as well as betraying trust, lying, causing pain among other effects.
So as a grown adult, it is hard for me to rationalize it now.
Yeah yeah, some circumstances may warrant stepping out of a relationship, say a person has a significant other who is alive but has dementia. But generally, cheating and cheaters are a no no for me. If that were me with dementia, I would be pissed that my partner stepped out on me in that time, but as a hypocrite, for someone else, I’m much more understanding. Matter of fact if I was 80 and I had been with my partner for say 50 years and I found out that they cheated 7 years ago, I would say goodbye because they cheated. A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me.
And I'd be pissed that I wasted years on a this guy when I could have been madly in love with a better person.
So imagine how I felt when I watched the first episode of Grace and Frankie. Boy was I pissed. TBH, the first episode was a little hard to swallow, including the second, but as Grace says, “once you get over that, it’s smooth sailing”.
But man was I annoyed. Sol and Robert cheated on Grace and Frankie for 20 f-cking years and had the audacity to try and get their f-cking blessing. Can you believe this sh-t? I was so angry for the women but somehow they were reacting too uh… tolerant about the news. Sure Grace was pissed but she was very mature about her approach so I just thought wow, it f-cking sucks to be an adult because even in a situation like that, you can’t freak out and be angry huh? But I just pushed it aside as a developmental level for once you reach your 70s.
They definitely reacted much more calmly than I expected, especially Frankie. Frankie is what you call a one of a kind. Her husband cheated on her and somehow she still managed to miss him enough to be his crying shoulder in times of trouble. I realize that they had a 40-year relationship, so they are more inclined to forgive them. But nah, I imagine that if it were me, after being pissed, I would react like Grace (before she decided to be considerate). Then I would cut my ex off for a long while before I cool off.
If you’ve ever wondered how I might be like, imagine Brianna and Frankie mixed together. More Brianna less Frankie. I identify so much with Brianna because she acts just as I would in many of her situations and man is she chill.
In fact the reason I also like Frankie so much is because she manages to remain calm in most situations … you know unless there’s an earthquake. I like chill people, what can I say?
I was so angry with Robert and Sol primarily because they cheated but also because of how they expected people to move on so quickly. But Robert managed to grow on me, with his cute self. I love how he loves Sol and his little belly. Plus, he has a very intimidating face but he is a sweetheart.
Now Sol on the other hand pisses me the f-ck off. You know what?! F-ck Sol. HE IS SOOOO ANNOYING!
He f-cking cheats and tries to cuddle with you and f-cking blames it on how he cares and feels too much. Shut the f-ck up Sol! No one cares!
That’s all I’ll say about Sol for now.
–Did I mention how much I love this show?
I especially appreciate how they highlight ageism in the western society. The way the public is capable of making older individuals feel irrelevant and invisible. Not only that, this show breaks barriers. It debunks all the myths about the sexual drive of older individuals, their physical and mental aptitudes and ultimately the effects of aging. This show demonstrates that just because you have a few more years to your life, it doesn’t mean that you make good decision, look at f-cking Sol.
To be real, I have never even been cheated on, but just imagining it makes me angry. It makes no sense, baby I know. But at least if you ever need someone to agree with you because you got cheated on, you’ve got me bruh. I will be angry with you. WE’RE NOT GONNA TAKE THIS! NO WE AIN’T GONNA TAKE THIS *SING IT MAN! *
Grace and Frankie is worth a solid 4.5 out of 5 because the show takes a while before it gets juicy, but after the first few episodes, it smooth baby.
Check this ish out and tell me what you think about it. Do you hate Sol too? Comment below, don’t be stingy with your thoughts!